LETTING GO TAKES LOVE
To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else but, God cares & when they ask He will help them!
To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another. God doesn’t He gave us all a free will.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences. God doesn’t enable unless it bears eternal fruit.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands but it’s in God’s.
To let go is not to try to change or fix another,
it’s to make the most of my time – focusing on what I can change & giving the rest to God.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about. It’s seeing the world through His eyes.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being & seeing their God given potential all the while.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies. God does.
To let go is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality. God created them & knows their end before their beginning.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept. Accept change. Whether or not I understand the change & why it’s happening, God does have a plan!
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my shortcomings & correct them. God will be faithful to complete the work He started in Me.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish it. God is God & I am not. God is in control.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to move forward & press on to become who God’s planned me to be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow & have God inspired hope for the future & the final outcome. It’s a Safe thing to trust God – my creator, with my life.
In addition I’m letting go:
- Of the worry, confusion & bewilderment.
- Of the false accusations & the hurtful words.
- Of the disloyalty & distrust.
- Of the need to be accepted.
- Of the desire to please.
- Of the friendships that have been more of a hindrance than a help.
My friends, you will always be in my heart. I will always always always love you. But, I’m letting go. I can’t take the pressure. I am weary of it all. Weary from being friends. Suffocation has taken its toll. Maybe it’s me, & I’m just not a good friend. I asked God for wisdom to know what to do & say. The words came as i needed them. I felt a peace amidst the chaos. A calm in the storm. A foundation in the unraveling. I knew it would be alright. If the problem is me than i have removed myself from the picture. I am powerless to change me. Only God can change me. Maybe i need to not have friends for a long while. I have tried re-arranging priorities. Tried giving more effort & more of myself, that energy I gave so freely has left me with nothing to show for it but a broken heart. The more I give the more is required of me. I’m tired. Tired of accounting for every thing i do. Tired of explaining myself & then re-explaining. Tired of trying to convince you we’re friends. I’m letting go. I’m sad…i will miss you. I didn’t chose this.
In our friendship:
- Jealousy was rampant.
- Promises were broken.
- Honesty was gone.
- The friendship became rigid and inflexible with attempts to maintain the status quo despite predictable and normal shifts or changes that make new demands on each friend.
- Our friendship was only viewed by you in a shallow event to event fashion. No big picture view of our relationship at all or room for other priorities.
- Conversations became strained or unpleasant.
- Even though we once had fun, it became a relationship of duty rather than enjoyment.
- The sharing of activities, emotional support or confidences became one-sided & unequal.
Maybe the warning signs above were always there…they just grew worse with time. Maybe i changed. Maybe my tolerance became less. Maybe i finally took notice.
I think we grew apart because we changed, i agree with you on that! We went in many different directions. In retrospect our paths crossed for only a brief period. Isn’t that okay? I would rather experience a brief friendship than none at all.
Well…regardless of the what if’s & maybe’s & hypothesis i could conjure up in my head. I’m letting go. It’s farewell. I’m thankful for the brief period of friendship we shared. I will never forget nor regret. I wish it would have ended better. I wish you would have kept being my friend.
I wish you would have just loved me for me & accepted the fact that we’d both changed & been okay with it. We didn’t agreed on everything anyway. If you ever want our friendship back I’m open. I would love to work it out, come to a compromise. Be honest with each other. I don’t harbor any ill thoughts. I’m just weary & I can’t go on like this anymore.
Letting Go by Judy Burnette (adapted for this blog )
How do you walk away from someone you love
And take the road of the friendless;
Can you reroute the course you have taken
And start over once again?
I don’t really want to let you go
But inside me I know I must;
The times we’ve had . . . the times I’ve cried.
My heart says stay . . . but it’s my mind I must trust.
We have shared so much together
Laughter . . . fun times . . . years;
Yet sometimes we can’t turn back time
We must walk away, and allow ourselves to heal.
I hope one day you will be happy
And I hope you will find new friends;
I know we each have some out there
Even if for now . . . only in our minds.
May life be gentle with you
May God’s absolute best come your way;
And on some quiet tomorrow
You will realize things were better this way.
I will always miss you & all that you meant to me.
Good bye & God bless!
When my heart is heavy & overwhelmed
Lead me to the Rock that is higher than I…
Our obstacles are megaphones that amplify what’s inside our heart. May all of my life’s obstacles project the ultimate solution which is Christ Jesus.
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